Super excited to have our little sister Zara guest post today for the sorella-hood. Thanks so much for sharing and giving us a kick up the behind Za! Who knew little sisters could be so clever!
One year ago I was at a very real and very painful low point in my life. A long term relationship that I thought was going to be … ‘it’ … came to a very sudden and painful end.
My life turned a complete 180 and I had to try to find myself amongst the heartbreak, tears, depression, gin and tonics (and Maggie Beer Ice Cream).
I woke up one morning recently with an overwhelming realisation that I was pushing 30. A year ago I would have hid in my ice cream/gin soaked sheets for a week. However, this time something different occurred and I used the techniques my overpaid psychologist had taught me and transformed this negative thought into a positive one.
So, the 30 things before 30 challenge came to fruition.
An opportunity for me to savor every moment of my new found singledom and embrace life and what was left of my 20’s. A list of achievable goals which would complete my journey through the 20’s and give me the ability to reflect on this stage of my life with achievements and fond memories rather than heartbreak.
Alas, 1 problem: I found the list really hard to write.
The first few things came to me easily. But I hit a big brick wall at around 20. I couldn’t think of things. I searched online for inspiration but nothing really fit so I left it for about a week then came back to it. I don’t know why I struggled so much. I think it could have been because I had never really given myself a chance to be honest about the things I really wanted to experience, or what might truly make me happy.
We get so caught up in ‘living’ the ‘life of routine’ – going to work and coming home to watch Masterchef. Why don’t we give ourselves the opportunity to think about what we really want to achieve? Even just thinking about the small things that we would really like to experience?
In giving myself the chance to reflect on what I want to do in my life I now have over FORTY things I want to do before I’m 30 – but have put the last 10 on my secondary list because it doesn’t have the same ring to it as 30 by 30!
So here is my list…in no particular order…(the red❌ means I’ve now done it!)
1. Learn how to braid hair
2. Complete the Dirty Dancing “Lift”
3. Travel somewhere foreign alone
4. Learn to sew
5. Crochet a rug
6. Go to a pole dancing class
7. See a show on West End
8. Go to the Moulin Rouge
9. Buy a venetian mask in Venice
10. Visit Uluru
11. Watch Gone with the Wind ❌
12. Make Gnocchi from scratch
13. Volunteer in a developing country
14. Drink a Martini
16. Eat a croissant in Paris
17. Learn tarot-card reading
18. Learn to juggle
19. Do trapeze
20. Go to a film on my own
21. Go see a theatre show on my own ❌
22. Go to a live cricket game
23. Do a chocolate cooking course
24. Get a share portfolio!
26. Go to The Big Day Out
27. Buy something fabulous from Tiffany
28. Throw a traditional dinner party
29. Read Pride & Predjudice
30. Get a puppy!
It’s a shame it took me getting to the lowest point in my life to begin this change. But I challenge you. Don’t wait for a traumatic experience to force you to live your life. Get out a pen and paper. Create your ‘bucket list’. Your 100 things to do before you die. Or whatever milestone that works for you.
Think of a few things that you’ve always wanted to do and – do it.
Do it now.
I dare you!
I think I’m inspired to do 40 by 40! How about you? Would you create a list like this to get you more active in living your life? Tell us about it below….