Today I’m asking fellow sorellas if date night is overrated or essential? Should we really need to schedule in getting and/or staying connected? What happened to that spontaneous element in a relationship called romance? Does date night impede our instinct to be impulsive with our partners?
It’s fair to say date night it is a bit of an ‘Americanism’ which has very slowly crept on to our shores. I do like the thought of it and have girlfriends who tell me they have regular date nights with their partners which helps them stay connected. But my hubbie and I (although we have entertained the idea) don’t participate in date night.
Our reason is probably the exact reason we should have one…we just don’t have the time!
For me, it feels a bit unnatural – or forced:
“Ok darling husband, the night’s here for you to talk to me and be nice to me, even though we both have a million other things we SHOULD be doing…”
Followed by this at the end of dinner (or movie, which can I point out means you probably didn’t actually talk to each other all that much anyway):
“Ok! All done. See you next week!”
While we don’t have a date night per se, I am conscious of trying to make sure we catch up and reconnect if we have a window to do so. For example, my husband and I had grand plans to fit in a simple coffee together last Sunday while his Mum spent some time with our children. We were really looking forward to having the opportunity to sit down and have some one on one time together (albeit it just a 20 minute coffee). However, by the time we ran around and did all the ‘jobs’ we needed to get done without kids in tow, we ran out of time to get to the café! The thing is, we actually didn’t mind that much…we were happy to get so much ticked off our to-do list.
Does quality time not count if you are doing the grocery shopping, cleaning out the garage, or running some errands together?
Beginning a family has certainly taken away the quality couple time out that we once enjoyed regularly. My husband and I joke that through the week we are ‘high-fiving’ as we pass each other in the hallway!! Our couple time has been replaced with park visits, bike rides and general family time (which we love).
We want to hear from you. Do you do date night? Does it work for you and your partner?
What are your tips for either date night, or not having date night, but maintaining that quality time with your partner as your little ones (or big ones) scurry around you?